As well as style, charisma is worked on. We often think that charisma is something innate. But like any discipline, charisma is worked on, improved and developed.
Today I give you 5 pieces of advice to improve your charisma and finally dare to assume the person you really are.
Being charismatic begins with an attitude. Being smiling, emphatic, sociable, are all qualities that will develop your charisma. Always think that a positive attitude attracts positive minds and makes you more appreciable to others. Charisma therefore inevitably passes through relationships with others. Be also careful that appearing sure of yourself and cold will not make you more charismatic than the opposite. On the other hand, a natural ease accompanied by sincere empathy will make you be remembered on good terms.
To develop one’s charisma, it is also necessary to develop one’s way of speaking and expressing oneself. Insults and vulgarity are therefore put aside in favour of a more elegant language. However, one avoids falling into the trap of pretentiousness by using phrases that only you understand. The goal here is to make yourself “attractive” to others and not “snobbish” or “pretentious”. Care is also taken to use positive language. For example, negatively phrased sentences such as “don’t…don’t.” should be avoided. We also think about using “thank you” rather than “forgiveness”. A small detail that will make the difference.
To develop his charisma, the art of the gaze must be mentioned. Indeed, the gaze is an undeniable asset whose importance we too often forget. Do you feel more confident when someone looks you in the eye rather than being in front of someone who adopts an elusive look? Do you feel more taken into consideration? If you answered yes, it makes sense. Learning to look others in the eye when you speak to them is sometimes difficult to put into practice, but you will always be rewarded. A little tip? Capture the eyes of your interlocutor by trying to discover the colour of his eyes.
I couldn’t talk to you about charisma without talking to you about appearance. Careful, I’m not talking about beauty. Know that a charismatic person will always be beautiful and, deep down, isn’t that true beauty? If I talk to you about appearance, it’s mainly about style that I’m getting at. Indeed, a charismatic person is comfortable in his sneakers and therefore in his style. The most important thing is to find your own and to assume it. Dare to free your style and your charisma will grow out of it! Dare to wear the clothes you like, dare to adopt “that little something of yours” that makes you unique and you will see, everything else will follow.
Certainly the most important of these 5 tips to develop your charisma: learn to be yourself. Keep your spontaneity and your childlike soul. Be authentic, that’s how your pockets love you and that’s why people will appreciate you. Learn to trust yourself, your ideas and your style!